Feel Like You’re Wasting Time at Networking Events? Turn Things Around with Mindset Training

Wasting Time at Networking Events Turn Things Around with Mindset TrainingWhy is it some make networking events work for them incredibly well, while your results aren’t even close?

And can mindset training even make a difference?

You bet. Mindset training can make all the difference with networking events!


School of Hard Knocks

As my Dad said, you pay for education. One way or another.

Some of us learn from formal education, professional courses, or other’s experiences. And some of us pay tuition in the school of hard knocks.

My first networking event definitely fell into the “School of Hard Knocks” category.

At the networking event, I felt awkward and clueless – I figured I’d feel that way, but knew the only way to get past the awkwardness was to simply go do it.

And although no business ever came from that first networking event, I still gained greatly from attending.

Because after the networking event, I took care to learn as much as possible from the experience. (If you don’t learn from the School of Hard Knocks, you get to take the class over.)

And wow did I learn! It ended up being a groundbreaking experience.


Master Networking Events with Mindset Training

That first networking event motivated me to learn as much as possible about effecting networking.

And consequently, I spend a few years observing, learning, and listening to all sorts of wise advice and insight.

The biggest lesson?

It’s all about your mindset. Get some solid mindset training, master it, and implement that training during networking events. Then just watch what happens!

Speaking of watching… check out this video where I unpack the 3 key points of mindset training for networking events. I’ve pulled together the best of the best of what I learned.



Now, if you’ve committed the networking crime I mention in the video, don’t beat yourself up.

We all start somewhere.

It’s ok to make mistakes, so long as you learn from them.

So learn, and move on!


For Extroverts

If you’re extroverted, as mentioned in the video, you have both strengths and weaknesses that come into play at networking events.

Listening is a fundamental skill that isn’t taught in any school, anywhere that I know of.

(As an aside, it’s at the core of Toastmasters – it’s where leaders are made, and good leaders listen.)

And it’s listening that you should focus on at networking events. Become an expert at listening.

Everything else about networking with others should come quite naturally – just make sure you’re asking questions and focusing on others, as described in the video.

Go have fun!

(In fact – my husband, who is extroverted, can carry on a conversation with a stroke patient who lost their ability to speak. He’s done this more than once, and what a gift it is to have people like that in this world!)

Extroverted? Excel at listening to master networking events. #Mindset Click To Tweet


For Introverts

(Yes, You!)

If you’re introverted, you have a different set of strengths and weaknesses that come into play at networking events.

Introverts can feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed when walking into a room packed with a large number of strangers.

But focus on your strengths. (Sometimes introverts forget they have them.)

Introverts are great at listening! Simply use the open-ended questions provided in the video, and get really good at asking questions.

Introverted? Excel at asking questions to master networking events. #Mindset Click To Tweet

Also, focus on connecting with individuals. When you see a group, look for an individual in that group that you can walk up to – and go ask questions.

You may also want to search for smaller networking events. After all, some networking events have a few hundred participants. And some networking events have ten people. You’ll likely feel more comfortable – and consequently more confident – with a smaller group.

And when you’re more confident, it shows.

As you become a master at asking questions and your confidence grows, it rapidly becomes easy for the introvert to connect.

Then the upward spiral begins for the introvert.


The Approach I Took to Finding Good Networking Events

It made sense to join some networking groups, to grow my business via referrals. After all, if you need a good plumber or electrician, how do you find one? Do you Google plumbers or electricians, or do you ask your sister, neighbor, or best friend who needed one last month?

People place a lot of trust in a good referral.

But I knew that just joining groups at random could be a serious time vampire, and who knew which groups were good, and which weren’t?

So I asked a few friends.

And I settled on this plan:

Join one networking group, focusing on giving and providing value the whole time. Stay for 3-6 months to see how it goes, and then decide:

  • Do I want to stay with this group?
  • Am I getting sufficient referrals from this group?
  • Do I have time to add in another networking group, or am I maxed out?

I joined only one group at a time, at a rate of about one every 6 months.

And Meetup.com gave me the starting point.


How to Add Networking Groups to Your Schedule

In my case, my first networking group wasn’t a business group. It was Toastmasters, since I always wanted to join Toastmasters.

That led to me having a lot of fun, and connected me with an enormous amount of people. It also led me to my second networking group (which was my first business networking group).

– I bring this point up to show how important it is to have fun!

The second group led to myself and a new friend forming a third group, a few months later.

After close to 6 months, I dropped the second group, because A) it was kinda far, and B) the format of the group didn’t really help spread anybody’s business. We simply ate breakfast together. While this may work really well for some, it wasn’t the best fit for me, personally.

Find networking groups that work for you. It isn't one size fits all. #Mindset Click To Tweet

The third group which I now run, is going well. It meets twice a month, so that still leaves me with plenty of room to expand, networking-wise.

That led to me being on the leadership team of a fourth group.


Managing Your Networking Schedule

To manage your networking schedule without getting frazzled, overworked, or overbooked, I’ll show you exactly what my schedule looks like.

As of today, I’m in:

  1. Toastmasters that meets the first Wednesday of every month at 7:00pm
  2. One networking group that meets twice a month 7:30-8:30am on the second and fourth Tuesdays, and
  3. Another networking group that meets monthly at 9:30-11:00am on the third Tuesday

Despite sounding like this is crazy busy, these three networking events consume a total of 4 1/2 hours a month.

That’s about just right for me, personally.

Most people find that between 1-5 networking groups is ideal for them.

Experiment with what’s ideal for you.


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Reach Ruthanne

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